Wife cheated on me with my dad

Ilustrated

My wife and I have been married for 3 years. I am 27 and she is 23. We have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter. In December we decided to let my dad move into our home to help him straighten out his life. He is an alcoholic, and compulsive gambler.

I worked about 50 hrs a wk., and that left my wife and dad a lot of alone time. After a few months she started drinking heavily with my dad and our relationship was deteriorating. One night I went to bed and they stayed up drinking (one of many times) and I got up a few hours later and over heard my dad telling her how he loved her and wanted to "lay naked in the rain with her".

I freaked out and the next day he apologized and told me how bad he felt and that it would never happen again. My wife told me he had to leave. Me, being a loving son, still wanted to save my dad. I really believed that he was sorry and that he was just drunk and that he wouldn't let it happen again. I talked to him and my wife and told them that i could forget about it because he really did need help and I didn't want to just give up on him because of it.

He stayed. About a month or so later, the same situation (I went to bed and they were up drinking) I over-heard him saying how he wants to cuddle with her and he told her he loved her and she said it back. I started throwing punches at my dad and my wife pulled me off of him. The next day we all had a talk and agreed that he had to move out. He just had to find a place to go first. After a few days of looking for a place for him I was in denial that my wife or my dad could do this to me and decided to let him stay.

Well, it is now July and I caught my wife and my dad doing the dirty. I beat the sh!t out of my dad (the ambulance took him away) and I am living at my mom's house for the time being.

I would really like to make things work with my wife because I love her dearly, but this is the most disgusting thing that I could imagine happening. We have a 2 year old daughter that I refuse to let be raised by a step father of any sort. I just don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful.

Thank you in advance,

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Moms-to-be wishing for a healthy and smart baby should consider planning the time of child’s arrival, as a new study suggests that month of birth can determine everything from length of life to intelligence.

According to the researchers, babies born in spring (March, April, or May) are more vulnerable to a host of illnesses like asthma, autism, schizophrenia, multiple sclerosis, and Alzheimer’s disease.

Also, spring kids are less smart and have a shorter lifespan as compared to their classmates born in autumn season, the study found.

The present study findings back previous U.S. research which found that those born in autumn live 160 days longer than those born in spring, the Daily Mail reports.

Wondering why? Scientists believe many of these differences can be understood by mother’s exposure to sunlight during pregnancy.

Sunlight is known to trigger vitamin D production in body, and a lack of this vitamin in first few months of the newborn can have long lasting effects on mental and physical health.

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The study, presented at the ongoing Cheltenham Science Festival in UK, revealed that kids born in between April and June had shorter lives than those who were born in October, November, and December.

Researchers further linked child’s season of birth with multiple sclerosis (MS), with the greatest risk seen in inhabitants of northern latitudes, where sunlight is scarce.

For instance, in Scotland, April babies are 50 percent more likely to develop MS than those born in November.
Professor George Ebers, an Oxford University expert on seasons and health, said, “You should probably be aiming for a November birth if you live in Scotland.”

Interestingly, scientists dubbed April as the cruelest month as babies born in this month are more likely to suffer from alcohol abuse, asthma, low IQ, Parkinson’s, eating disorders, MS, autism, diabetes, etc.

Similarly, infants born in spring months were likelier to have asthma, Crohn’s disease, and schizophrenia.

Study findings remarkable--experts
Professor Russell Foster, an Oxford University neuroscientist and expert on seasonal biology, said the conclusions were ‘surprising and remarkable’.

He added, “These are small effects but they are very, very clear. I am not giving voice to astrology – it’s nonsense – but we are not immune to seasonal interference.”

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